Hey Christine...as you know I am new to piecing so I can't give any expertise there but from what I do know about DBing...You did a great job w/that. Why not bring out that person you were in the beginning? Cheerful, loving, acting as if, etc.... I know you probably are doing that now but you may have gotten a bit comfortable w/the fact that he's not running so you are not "working" as hard? Go back to some of your old threads and see what helped turn it around and see if you're missing some of that now.
I know the fears exist. Maybe coz he doesn't want to ML you can show him love actions another way? cuddling, getting him coffee, the tapes you were leaving him? Whatever you think he might like to help get some flair back from him. Maybe he's just dwelling on his faults in the R and doesn't want to talk (like most of the other S's here). He's just not ready.
Give him the space but show him you still love him. Just because you were ML so much initially doesn't mean you have to do that to show him love, right? There are other ways. Find them and start slow w/some and wait for results. He'll come around. Don't dwell so much on the what if's and enjoy what you have now and what will come in the future.
Thanks for welcoming me to the forum. I'm ready to stand tall and start ML too!!! LOL Tootles.........
