One month down, zero casualties

[RosaLinda]

"he came out and I did a double-take. He had shaved. My face fell and I couldn't mask the emotions. It's a trigger. The beard represents the BD, when he started growing it. The shaving represents that he is doing it for someone else, not for me, not for family pictures. He wouldn't shave it for anything, but he is doing it for someone else.... an OW2 hookup is likely to be happening tonight, I just need to get myself completely out of the picture. This has been building up in my mind, this impending trip and sealing of the full physical affair with OW2."

Oh Raine, I hope this isn't true. You know your H best - why would shaving indicate initiation of a PA with OW2 when his beard represents BD to you? As uR would say, you're getting ahead of yourself. 

But even if you're not, remember rH's sitch. They progressed from our usual one step forward-two steps back to two steps forward-one step back. But now are just progressing forward. 

Hang in there honey. You know he loves you. He's doing what he needs to do right now. Hopefully he will remember how he felt when you were gone and make the right decision.