Raine, you are so intuitive. I think you are spot on in your observations.

While there is a thread that runs through everyone's situation, they are all different, too.

You must do this in your own way. As you've said, you've done pretty well so far.

It is a fine line you are walking and I am sure it is so draining.

But I think it is a line you have to walk in order to come out the other side.

I dont think pulling away is the answer for you, nor do I think moving closer is.

It is not unusual for you to feel about done during these draining times.

It is important for you to take a breath and figure out how to move forward.

I do think that he is spiraling. I think he is scared and feeling squeezed.

You should probably let him sit with his thoughts a bit more so he can figure some stuff out.

So, my friend, I think you have come so far on this difficult journey. I do not think you are "done" by any means.

I think you just need to regroup a bit and remember why you "stood" for so long.

I feel that your sitch will have a happy ending.

I also feel that you can do this. In fact, I know you can.