The R talk will come. I didn't say a word to my H about anything that went on while we were separated (don't know what else to call it. we were still in the same house). H brought it up to me on Valentine's Day and wanted to clear the air. I was not sure if he had cheated on me during this separation. I had found two women's phone numbers during all of this and never knew if anything resulted from them. H adamantly told me that he had never cheated, would never cheat and that he got the phone numbers on purpose, left them where I would find them to hurt me because I had hurt him. He apologized profusely and told me how much he loves me.
Give your H time. I'm sure the R talk will come. As for waiting for the other shoe to drop, I felt like that for a few weeks. After the R talk on V Day I feel much more secure. Patience is the key in piecing too.
I am so happy for you Christine and I wish you and your H the best
