My H is the same, I've got his phone number but he won't tell me where he lives. He only lives in the next town! Don't let that worry you though it happens. What are your GALs today? I'm going shopping and then meeting up with some friends. Tonight I'm off to help out at a youth club.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I am going to pressure clean my D's home today. It is so hot and muggy here at the moment seems like the perfect activity for today. I find it strange how a WAS feels the need to keep their address secret. I understand what I've read about why they might be doing this. Regardless, it just seems...hmmm, I dont know how to put it....lol
With my H I think it's to stop me going round and camping outside his flat, lol. As if! He mentioned on Sunday that his flat is over a shop, so he's giving me another clue. Actually I'm not that bothered knowing, I don't really need to know! Have I mentioned about a vision board yet? It's something we've been talking about on a separate thread. You get some A3 paper, card or something that you've got lying around the house and you stick pictures cut from magazines, newspapers etc. That inspire you. It keeps up your PMA and motivates you to what you wnat out of life and the future. Depending on your religious outlook, you can also ask the universe for things but being a Christian this is not part of my faith. You can also put inspirational quotes on it to remind you to keep strong, babysteps and patience. Currently I've got a picture of a family sat around a table, a picture of Jesus sitting on a bench talking to a man which I can imagine to be my H and a tidy garden with wall decorations to inspire me. I was tempted to buy something for the garden today when I was in town, but I resisted The idea of a vision board is taken from a film called The Secret.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
well trying, both my wife and I are christians. She was actually better than I was at worship. I believ though I had noticed how she seemed to put her bible down shortly before leaving out. I even remember at the airport offering to get her bible from the backseat for the flight and she had said no. I hope she hasn't turned her back on the Lord as this is something mentioned in the bible as having a hardened heart even towards him.
My H is the same, he turned his back on the Lord as well. It is said that if the WAS leaves the family home, then the devil has a hand in it. The devil is delighted when the family home has split up, he has achieved some kind of victory. God now has to put it right again, but in his own time so we can have the best outcome. He has to do things in order you see. This is what I truly believe You should pray for your W and ask God to soften her heart and to bring her back to God. Although we all have free will, there are ways around this You can ask God to show her the error of her ways and fight the devil off. The devil has tried to get to me a few times this week by giving up with my H. I couldn't sleep for a couple of nights, things going round in my head. Luckily though my turmoil is over for now There's a Christian website that I go to called marriages rejoice. You can also sign up for their daily email which is really encouraging. There's also a book that's a good read called hope for the separated. It's written by the same author that wrote the love languages. I think I've go on too much now, so I'll stop there
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Funny, my W also stopped going to church when we moved up to the country (2.5 years ago). During the last 9 months or so of S, she hasn't visited a church or even spoken to the chaplain at her school. Me, I started to go to church (was an atheist) as a way of feeling relaxed and calm. It is just another puzzle piece to their life puzzle. Again it is probably the guilt of what they are doing that stops them from the church and their faith. Actually I just remembered, my W, has a big "Faith" tattooed on her lower back. Faith in what I don't know. Faith in marriage, nope, didn't want to work on it. Faith in her God, nope doesn't seem like it. Faith in what?
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Your fine trying, it's always good to hear words of encouragement from a biblical perspective also. You know, about your call and my W emailing me her new phone number, there was really no reason to do this as we dont speak on phone at all. I know I shouldnt try to make much of this but, there's something or some reason why she did that. As much as she has been keeping me "out" to email a contact number without reason doesn't make sense for where things have been to date.
There will be a lot of things that the WAS will do that will confuse you. I think it's because they are confused themselves and they don't really know what they want. That doesn't mean to say that she's going to walk through your door tomorrow and say I'm sorry. If she does then it won't last as we all know. HWA, you are so right in what you say, I think it is that they feel guilty about what they've done and can't admit it to our Lord. They know they have done wrong, but they are not ready to ask for God's forgiveness. My H picks my son up after Church to take him out. The last couple of times he has come in after the service for a coffee. This I think is a marked improvement, but I'm not looking for anything in it. I hope he gets his faith back and starts going to Church again. Maybe then he'll listen to what God has to say to him
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Trying, it's very likely that at some point the Lord will have them see they were better off with him as their focus as once was. In my W's case she was very much into church and the Lord but it appears as though she had to look the other way in order to escape. Bible talks alot about hardened hearts. If you harden your heart towards your spouse you are also hardening your heart towards God period.
How very true 2old She can't escape though, just look at the ones in the bible that have tried to escape and failed miserably. The most well known one being Jonah and the whale (big fish).
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
The idea of a vision board is taken from a film called The Secret.