Does it matter if its WAW or MLC, treat the same?

[ForeverYoung]

Of course it matters whether or not our spouse is MLC. If it didn't Michele wouldn't have wrote a special section in DR about it, and we wouldn't have a separate MLC sub forum for all us lucky souls who are dealing with it!

Many of the problems addressed in this marriage-saving guide are somewhat less intractable and easier to resolve. Wading through a MLC is a process that simply takes time.

...it (MLC) was gonna happen regardless.

This is true. MLC happens in some of the best of marriages. (like mine!)

Snodderly wisely tells us that we didn't break them, and we can't fix them.

Likewise, Cadet reminds us that the marriage wasn't the problem.

This seems to me to be a BIG difference from a situation where the M was the main issue.

We all know there are no guarantees our marriage will be saved no matter what we do. That's why it really is best to focus on ourselves and do what we want FOR OURSELVES.

I like a comment I read from Cadet once where he said we can do everything right, (what ever you think that may be) and still lose our M, or do nothing at all, and come through the crises with our M intact.

Bust On Thumpered!