New to This - An English Man In Trouble

[Hadlee58]

Good question and one I have been giving some real thought too. I guess the major thing she has done is saying she wants to give things another go apart from that I think she has done little, she may say differently if you asked her but she hasn't initiated many R discussions hasn't arranged any date nights. When we agreed to try again we both struggled how to move forward and she said it would take time and maybe we should try dating again, I am the only one to initiate this and we have done once properly since I moved home. On the plus side we do talk an awful lot more then ever and spend some great time as a family with our kids. However I think we need to do more together alone as a couple.
My major concern as happened tonight is that the mere mention of our R my W seems to close down all the shutters and I get the impression she is very uncomfortable even discussing it right now and it's pressure to her, which is something I am keen to avoid, I would even go as far as to say we kiss each other on the cheek every day when leaving/returning/bed time and some times it feels really false, tonight I didn't bother as I feel quite low about how things are progressing, the upshot is I am in the bed tonight whilst she is on the couch
I really am struggling at the moment, I bring it up and it creates pressure, I don't and I am stuck stressing internally