Ruby- My wifes dream was to live overseas. She wanted us to sell the home and experience life in India or Ecuador or China etc. My profession is the type that lends itself to overseas outsource so I told her that I could get a certification that would allow me to work with a nice income overseas.
This certification was a $%^h! It was designed to be 18 mos long and the text alone was close to 5,000 pages. It was understood that I would dedicate my Saturdays to it. Ok, thats what I did. Along the way came four separate proctored exams which would take approx 4 hrs each.
So I used my Saturdays and then after work I would need to immerse myself for 2 weeks before each test. On top of that my house was on the market and we had a two year old. STRESS
oh BTW did I mention i HATE my profession
I finally complete and pass my fourth exam on Dec 22- 16 months done. I only had my final project to complete (50-100 pages in mandated 8pt type and font)and then I would have this highly sought out international certification that would allow us to live overseas. her to quit her job and live her dream.
On Jan 7th she told me she didnt love me. She told me that I had become too distant over the last 6 mos and I was miserable during that time..........
I asked her if there was anyone else.....no she said
(Now I know thats a lie)
Ruby, you sound like a very intelligent, educated woman so what follows- simple survival tips- will prob be WAY beneath you....but ill go anyway.
Set alarm for same time everyday Eat GOOD breakfast Set your daily goal during breakfast Do the dreadful things first What is your reward for achieving your daily goal? Stop drinking get a bedtime- stick to it
Your person has gone through an amazing amount of stress both mentally and physically......The running that you are doing is AWESOME but your tired- and if you weren't you wouldn't be human.
Get on a schedule now and stick to it. I understand "life happens" but if you cant control it more often then not you are out of control and have big problems.
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
