Does it matter if its WAW or MLC, treat the same?

[25yearsmlc]

regarding the kids...and an over all attitude, here's what helped me.

I planned for the worst and hoped for the best.

That meant I assumed my h would not return though I was privately open to it...and I assumed also that I WOULD BE HAPPY ANYHOW...and started to do the things I needed to do to achieve that.

I encouraged my kids to contact their dad but did not force it (well, not often but on occasion I DID)

I never openly bad mouthed him. I did sometimes say "he's confused...worked very hard all these years and has pent up demand to explore..." Which was true and not that applicable to me b/c I had been a lot wilder before I met him.

My biggest regret now that we are together, is that I did not bring my kids along with me on the "forgiveness road".

So if you and your w do begin to reooncile or piece, take them along in some way.

Good luck,

(((( )))