well, I'm just guessing here but it sounds like h is still needing some external reassurances that he has a "safety plan" -- some sort of mental support system that he can use to make himself feel as though he has an "out". It's almost like he's reminding himself that he has choices.
I'm sure it's painful for you but in someways, I would expect his need for safety to increase a bit if he's getting CLOSER to you...more COMFORTABLE and recommitted...kind of like how scary it feels when it starts feel good again? and we have to put even MORE into our safety net.
I think you're on the right track...just keep DBing friend!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
