Ha Complicated! Funny that your H realizes he is mean to you, mean enough that he would mention it to someone. But does not try to stop! So sad/funny, that their brains are gone. During that same conversation when my H told me that he is aware RT only wants to marry him to get a green card and would probably divorce him within a year, he said that he does not know want to do (divorce me and marry her or keep living with me as friends, sigh...) because he does not want to hurt either of us. This is a man who is an engineer, a very intelligent man. It is sad to see how his brain has turned to mush. Sort of like that fermented oatmeal RT has him eating for breakfast every day. Yum! Thanks for your encouragement that his trip will open his eyes. I'll even be satisfied if the trip opens her eyes and she drops him, but it would probably be better if it's his decision, right? I wouldn't want him picking right up with another OW.
I'm sorry you have evidence that H is back with OW. She seems like SUCH a loser!
There is an old thread about the stages of MLC. I googled it, and will try to post it here, not sure if it is too old. If the link does not work, google Six Stages of MLC. According to that thread, anger is the second stage and can last up to six months. But I think any MLCer can and will dabble in other stages at any time. My H went thru the anger right before and after BD, and then about a year later.
Complicated! Funny that your H realizes he is mean to you, mean enough that he would mention it to someone. But does not try to stop! So sad/funny, that their brains are gone. During that same conversation when my H told me that he is aware RT only wants to marry him to get a green card and would probably divorce him within a year, he said that he does not know want to do (divorce me and marry her or keep living with me as friends, sigh...) because he does not want to hurt either of us. This is a man who is an engineer, a very intelligent man. It is sad to see how his brain has turned to mush. Sort of like that fermented oatmeal RT has him eating for breakfast every day. Yum! Thanks for your encouragement that his trip will open his eyes. I'll even be satisfied if the trip opens her eyes and she drops him, but it would probably be better if it's his decision, right? I wouldn't want him picking right up with another OW.