I agree with Cadet that a women can have a fictional OM. My W became obsessed with a series of romance novels. She would spend hours many nights on an Internet forum discussing the novels with others and now counts among her friends these people, some of which she has never physically met.
One time before BD I complained to her that she is holding me up to a standard of a fictional character. How could any person compare to a character who is tall, rugged, handsome, kind, loving, strong, smart (speaks multiple languages), etc.?
Anyway, I agree that the OM can be fictional, and FY, if your W doesn't read romance novels, it could be something else.
