Moving forward together from a mess

[cbtdad]

Thanks Magic and AS!
AS, there is no doubt that piecing is were the real work begins. I now understand this. You spend so much time in the beginning wondering what happened, feeling like your world is over, acting desparate, and going crazy that you feel like there is no hope. Then you get to a point where you feel like you will be alright and you've spent so much time and effort working on yourself that you start to forget what it would really be like and begin to remember that everything you thought was a perfect spouse on a pedostal isn't really that at all.
So once the peicing begins you realize that your spouse isn't perfect and you feel like you are a better person and begin to ask yourself, "is this really what I want"
It starts to play tricks on your mind.
So with that said, think goodness for a good MC!
I truly believe reconciliation can't happen without one. It's not that they have all the answers, but they can help so much with the direction and guidance. They help you to remember that both of us have taken the bigger step in realizing that the marriage is what we want. So all that direction and guidance is towards that.
Patience is te key. I have learned that it took a while to get to this point and it will take a while to repair. We have our bad days here and there, but we both chalk that up to the situation and realize what we are dealing with