I too know how awful it feels to not feel "emotionally safe". When that kind of vulnerability is sensed we definitely need to pay attention and do whatever it takes to protect ourselves.
My D will be finalized this coming Monday. I of late have been feeling much like you describe, and I know I have to take action to make sure my heart and emotional state are safe. Our H's are not operating from a healthy place right now, so how they act is not going to be in anyone's best interest because their judgment is so skewed. Including their own interest I might add. As hard as it is when we feel so defeated, because we haven't gotten to our goal, we have to take charge and control over our own well being. I can tell you specifically how I am doing this in my own instance if it would help. I know all of our situations are slightly different so it might not help at all.
In any "fire" type of setting, I think it really helps to identify what element is fanning the fire. What is fueling it to burn hot, and then work to remove or at least alter that element. It's hard to get the energy for this when you feel so down I know. I really get that.
Ideally, I would suggest that you not make a big decision like the house, at this time, in this turmoil, but if this would lesson your angst and help you with a sense of control and protection then by all means do it.
