Don't understand, why now???? Plus what do I do??

[Tallula]

Tallula,

Three quick words in response to your last post to me; sorry, wow, and thank you.

MrBond,

My ignorance was that I thought al-anon was different than AA, and thus my wife's experience might be different than mine. This doesn't excuse me from taking your posts as a personal attack on me and I apologize for my response to you as well my bashing of AA.

SM34,

Thank you as well for your post. Humility is a problem that I know I have and actually have been consciously trying to work on, and I know that the majority of my problems (including the need to have more humility) is letting go of my pride.

All,

Once again, I apologize for bashing AA and basically being defensive about what you have posted in an attempt to help me.

Thank you and God bless

Great!! No problem, that ego is not an easy thing to squash. Ugh. Trust me, I GET IT!!

We just get so wrapped up in thinking we are misunderstood and spend so much energy on trying to get people to see things our way. If I don't agree with something my H or anyone else says, I don't have to argue with them anymore. Their "truth" does not have to influence or diminish my "truth". When I really understood and believed that, my whole world opened up and I feel so free.

Ala-non is a different program than AA. I believe Bond thought you were in AA, trying to get your wife to go to ala-non. Not only is this a classic thing that happens in AA, but here on DB we LBS tend to beg, plead, harrass our spouses to go to MC, church, etc to try to save the marriage. All it does is make them mad because they only see us as the problem. While that is never the case, it takes 2, DB principles say for us to stop that pressure and simply work on the only thing we can control...ourselves.

So, back to it. Did you finish the book? What are your 180s right now. What GALS are you going to do this week?