Sorry for the hijack BC39 but I have to respond to SM39 since he doesn't have his own thread.
SM39, you did what I hoped you wouldn't do and made it all about you.
"And it has,been a little disheartening that lately yourself and a few others who I have a lot if respect for and never said one negative word about,, will not give,me a chance to help."
No one said you couldn't help. In fact, it's great you want to. But your problem is and always have been trying to teach. And you try to "teach" things about "attraction" that many people recommended had nothing to do with your sitch. But you didn't listen, which is your right, but you're stuck and to teach that attraction stuff again to others isn't helping.
"I have been silent on the forum for many months and took the time to learn to listen, learn to appreciate others.opinions, and grow into someone better. And through this on going journey, I have learned a few things and have seen a few reoccurring patterns that I wish to share with men who suffer from similar character issues as,myself."
There's nothing wrong with that. BUT it's the WAY you do it that people didn't like.
"It is unfortunate that some of the people that helped,me see my faults the most, will now not give me the chance to show,my new tolerant, caring, passionate me."
DO NOT play the pity card here. There was NO tolerant, caring, passionate you before. You kept arguing with people on here rather than actually sticking to concentrating on you. It hasn't clicked in yet.
"I know you saw the responses I got when all I ever did was givwme my opinion. Yourself, Tallula,, and gabbysmom, all people I respect, have been jumping to conclusions as to what I am about to say, and judging me for my opinions, and coming awefully close to asking me not to post here anymore.
DO NOT accuse anyone of this. We would be happy for you to post. But don't post, ask questions and then argue with people because you didn't like their answers. You kept looking for a quick fix rather than fixing yourself. No amount of attraction warranted your W spending half the time with another guy and the other at home.
"Im not the same person you all knew from a few months ago. Perhaps you can akl try to practice what you preach by showing some support for other peoples opinions, and showing some of the new nembers how to not jump to conclusions oe assume you know exactly what someone is about to say. You used to call that mind reading I think."
Of course we don't mind read you. You haven't posted in awhile, so that's why I encourage you to update your story. But you still obsess and concentrate on this "attraction" issue which turned many of the women off.
The question about the testosterone is fine. The "alpha" stuff that you accompanied with it has nothing to do with that. It's a physical condition.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
