Emotional Connection and Attraction

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MrBond. My comment was actually going to be about Bc39 and some of the simikarities I see between he and myself.

I was also going to say that Accury has some very good points as to how attraction may be secondary to having that all important emotional connection with their spouse.

I was going to praise YOU as I always do, for being so knowledgeable.

I also wanted to ask BC39 if he had ever wondered if there was a medical reason for some of the symptoms he suffers from, since they are all ones I know too well....

Anxiety
Not be able to focus
Being somewhat Moody or passive aggressive
Always having a finger on the pulse of the marriage
Wondering why the W isnt 'feeling it'
Wife had concern with his drive or work ethic
And generally feeling a little 'beta' as he (and his wife put it)

I have spent months trying to get to the bottom of why I am the way I am, and why I feel anxious and a little depressed, and generally a little sluggish.

These are all issues I have had.AFTER marriage but BEFORE bomb.

I've now discovered that my testosterone is not optimal for a man my age, and ALL the symptoms or issues he is having can be attributed to low T.

MrBond, I really do think you areba great guy and I know we dont always see eye to eye....

And it has,been a little disheartening that lately yourself and a few others who I have a lot if respect for and never said one negative word about,, will not give,me a chance to help.

I have been silent on the forum for many months and took the time to learn to listen, learn to appreciate others.opinions, and grow into someone better. And through this on going journey, I have learned a few things and have seen a few reoccurring patterns that I wish to share with men who suffer from similar character issues as,myself.

It is unfortunate that some of the people that helped,me see my faults the most, will now not give me the chance to show,my new tolerant, caring, passionate me.

I know you saw the responses I got when all I ever did was givwme my opinion. Yourself, Tallula,, and gabbysmom, all people I respect, have been jumping to conclusions as to what I am about to say, and judging me for my opinions, and coming awefully close to asking me not to post here anymore.

Im not the same person you all knew from a few months ago. Perhaps you can akl try to practice what you preach by showing some support for other peoples opinions, and showing some of the new nembers how to not jump to conclusions oe assume you know exactly what someone is about to say. You used to call that mind reading I think.

Anyway, BC, have you ever had your testosterone checked? Many of the issues you might,be dealing with as listed above, are associated with low T in men. This might be something worth,looking in to. There are natural ways to remedy that, and I have been doing this for some time now and feel much better about myself.

I have less anxiety, or.close to none. I feel more energetic and productive at work. And more driven. My mind feeks sharper than before and im getting more things done. Procrastination is beginning to be a thing of the past.

I want to have my T checked in a couoke months to see if the results would back how I feel.

Many of the 'alpha' behavior that woman MIGHT be atteacted to, comes natural when T levels are optimal. But more importantly, I feel it is helping,me feel good about my self and my personal goals in life. And THAT is probably what causes atteaction in the women around you....not pretending or learning to act a certain way. You just become more confident and more productive and accomplished when your T levels are good. And I suspect that would help you greatly