Hi Linda. Don't you think all of our h's are dopes? Yours is too. Going to Moscow to be with someone online, really? If you stop and think about it they all are nuts.
My H is taking the girls to the lake this weekend. I'm hoping that maybe he will see that he misses spending more time with them. I really have not talked to him much at all. Only about important house stuff.
Still trying to give him space. The last time he was angry on the phone my response was"I am trying to be nice and considerate and keep you informed. Why do you have to be so mean?" That's all I said. Ever since then his texts have sounded a bit nicer. I'm just not going to take being talked to that way.
I walked tonight with a friend. She was telling me that several months ago she was talking to another mutual friend that talked to my h. My H said to him "yeah I'm mean to complicated. I don't know why." Just goes to show you they kind of know what they are doing but they really don't.
Why do I think my H is still seeing OW? Well, he doesn't come over at all anymore. When he got mad the last time he said I'll do what ever I want. He also got a gym membership to a gym that is not too far from her house but you can use it anywhere. There is one by his parents house too but it's just too convenient that he joined by her house.
Right now though I'm just laying low. Hanging out with friends and doing projects around the house. Since I couldn't take the girls on vacation (no time) I think I'm going to have a girl's day with them. Get mani/pedi's, lunch and shopping. I think they'll like that.
In September I am going to go see my sister in Arizona because D19 is playing soccer there so I'm going to go early and spend some time with her. It will be nice to get away and spend some time with her.
I know what you mean about the stages being never ending. I have no idea where h is in his long journey. Whatever stage where they are extra mean! lol I think he sees the damage he has done but he still blames me.
Linda I think a month is a long time for your h to spent with RT. I forgot who said it is so different when they are living together and we assume they will be right? I think he is going to see just what she's really like. I also think at some point he is going to see just how bazar his statement is that he knows all she wants him for is a green card and she'll divorce him in a year. Really? And you still want to be with her? When will he see just how stupid that is.
Thinking about the weekend. In a way it will be sad because all of the girls will be gone but it will be nice to have the house to myself.
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