Don't read too much in H's text, Bright. He was just communicating that information to you...nothing more. DXW did the same when her father died several years ago.
Last time when I informed him that I was coming to our vacation home for a few days while he was staying there, he freaked out and moved out of the condo, so I could stay there by myself. I didn’t give him any indication that I wanted to talk or anything R related, but he made his conclusion.
Oy! Ouch. If I was still around this board back in March, I would have strongly advised against that move. I bet it took you weeks and weeks to recover from this setback. You probably now see that as a pursuing move....whether it is intended or not. Regardless...WASes want to be as far AWAY as possible from us.
As I advised Magic in her thread, be judicious when testing the waters when contacting H. Do you know your H's top two LL? I've found that when we speak to their LL's, it helps in the healing process and reminds them of the positive aspects of the R. In my case, my DXW's two LLs are PT and Gifts. However, I've only sent DXW a gift once in the 9 years we've been apart...and that was for her most recent birthday in May.
