Just wanted to say thank you to all for last nights and this mornings post about my latest occurrences in my sitch.
I am grateful to everyone here who gets it!!!
I am feeling quite better right now and realize while this situation is unfortunate, I will be okay. I am the prize. The life H and I built was a very good one, and as my title states...he is the confused one to be throwing that all away.
I am still waiting for attorney #2 to call, but will keep you guys posted.
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life
I absolutely agree with your lawyer; this isn't the Judge's first rodeo and will connect the dots pretty quickly.
I would not be surprised to see the assault charges dropped as well once the details are known. Domestic complaints always rise when court papers are filed. In fact, I worked at a family law office once and one of the things we used to ask clients was if they had a safe place to go once papers were filed - regardless of how "good" they thought their spouse was. Have a plan. In our jurisdiction, though, assault can only be charged upon an actual arrest, so much would have been sorted right from the get-go.
You are a strong lady, B. Think of you filing as the BD for your H. Suddenly reality is peeking into his fantasy life.
B. What a jerk. Everytime I read someone's sitch I think I'm not sure which one is the craziest! I hope he gets thrown in jail for filing a false report too but I doubt it. I'm sure the courts see this more than we think.
Stay strong. I feel bad for your kids. I think it is hard for kids to see their dad be such a jerk. I know that's what my kids think sometimes.
M 48 H 50 M 25 T 27 D 20,18,15 6/11 H filed 3/12 H dropped 4/12 H moved out
Hmm.. I think by now you see it for what it is, BRNR. He is trying to paint a picture and he's using whatever he can to do it. Accusations? Who here hasn't been accused of all kinds of things? I know I have
But as was mentioned, it's unfortunate, but not unexpected. And the burden of proof is now on him. It seems to me that he is like a kid in high school - if I throw more at her, some of it will stick. He may not even believe the accusation but may believe it's the best way to get what he thinks he wants.
I'd look at it as unfortunate and a nuisance, but it's got no merit so it's just a matter of time before you can work through it for yourself.
Glad the meds are kicking in. I imagine it helps take the edge off.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
I know it has been a while. I have tried to just live these past couple of weeks...I guess I put the sitch on the shelf.
Nothing really new to report...
I am actually on "done" mode now. I think this last bit where H accused me of assault and lied about our sons meds/dr.s appt, really killed whatever I had left for him.
So doing nothing but living life to it's fullest...which honestly I am enjoying right now.
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life
Good for you B, you sound like your in a better place. Keep on keeping on.
Glad you see its not bout you! Someday, hopefully soon, he'll realize he needs help. They need to hit rock bottom before they realize the problems are within themselves.
