Whatcha thinking Wonka? What kind of stuff would you suggest?
I have this niggling feeling that there's a clear, although hidden from us unseen, pattern to what's causing H's spiraling...the problem is that we don't have the data to see how it clearly develops and unfolds. Hence the reason I've asked you to keep a solution journal...I bet we will all be surprised by what the Oracle reveals [yeah, I've christened your solution journal the 'Oracle'].
My sense is that when you are able to see the times that H plays the phone games with you, asking for back rubs, when he's feeling low. Something tells me that something is causing H to contact the OW furtively for certain reasons. He's seeking the OW for specific reasons...he is...he is...my frustration is not knowing what specific triggers led him to the OW. Do you see what I'm getting at here, Raine?
With the help from the Oracle, you will then be able to detect, what we hope here, some clear patterns emerge and it will give you the upper hand to the OW in meeting H's needs in the reconnection stage.
