New to This - An English Man In Trouble

[Hadlee58]

Hi mr bond, I agree that she probably still has her barriers up and I am doing what I can to bring these down but I do feel she holds all the aces.
I do think I have listened to all her annoyances and can understand her reasoning behind them, this is why I am working on them. I don't think I would be true to myself if I was doing this just to appease her. I now listen to her and really listen stopping whatever I am doing without cutting in with advice on what I would do. I appreciate her roll as a part time mum and part time worker for too long I thought she did less hrs than me and therefore should do more at home, I am now working on this and not taking her for granted. I am also working on not crowding her and giving her some space and not overpowering her. I have also started to work on myself getting some of my own interests that don't involve her.
I so understand your point about the 'not doing things differently' and the comparison with the depression is clever and accurate but I do struggle with how I get that across without sounding like I am pushing for things too quickly.
Again thanks for your response