"""I honestly have had no reaction at all. I've said all along that the real, deep hurt was simply him leaving. Hearing there's another woman can't possibly hurt worse than the fact that he left us. I think that's really true based on my reaction so far."""
As far as I have come in my own recovery him leaving us still hurts so deeply.
I like your attitude. You and your H probably had a very normal relationship and were best friends there is no "problem" or issue that can justify his behavior, continue to focus on GALing as you have been doing.
My H behavior has many similarities to yours, he is young for MLC, his crisis triggered by SIL cancer diagnosis (which she has since beaten - Hooray hooray!!), death of a cousin, and overall stress of being a new dad and the paying da bills.
My STBX also denied denied denied the OW meanwhile mutual friends were telling me about their inappropriate behavior but I think my STBXH (a la Bill Clinton) thought if he didnt put it in it wasn't an affair. Now that we are officially getting divorced they are openly in a relationship which they claim began after he left.
Although it hurts me still that STBX is in this relationship now for over a year - it also seems like it cant be much of a relationship since my H is such a facade of a person these day.
The more you focus on yourself and keeping your side of the street clean the easier it becomes to see how messed up the other person is.
Look into the Laura Munson book this isnt the season you think it is.
Also treat yourself to nice little things because you deserve it and this is so so freaking hard especially when you are taking care of kids. I was into Starbucks and lots of new lipstick & shampoos from the drugstore.
This has nothing to do with you, its about him
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
