I hear you about the fact my wife was married 3 previous times. It's not that I have looked past that fact. We got together in 2001. We didn't get married until 2007. I always had reservations about her previous marriages to be honest. This is why we didn't marry right off. I heard the horror stories from those previous times for her and they did seem to be confirmed by her family. And being with her for 6 years prior to getting married I believe I seen she had a heart and was a normal person for lack of a better term. But you are right, she made our seperation one that looks like she had been really abused. I mean not a word to me about leaving me and acting all normal until she lands up north to call me and say please take my car to the airport there tomorrow. It all just didn't and to be honest still doesn't make sense. As you mentioned previous you and your WAS didnt fight and neither did we. So, I guess I need to look at what you are saying a lot deeper. She just cut and run without warning. And I dont mean to not take blame here. As Ive said previous things were tough and I was stressed with our finances etc. But we carried on as usual as far as I seen. And yes, I know I need to drop expectations etc and work on me. I think this would of been somewhat better if she had confronted me with "I'm leaving you" instead of the way she did it.
