All I can say is you've got to work on you and drop all your expectations. When you say things like "So, my waiting every two weeks before emailing her hasnt had any effect on things as yet" then it's pretty clear you have expectations. When you have expectations then it just leads to disappointment. Just focus on yourself, get back in touch with the guy you were before her. Become the strong, independent person you no doubt were back then. Good luck!
I agree anotherstander, it's time to work on yourself 2old Try and push her to the back of your mind. Have you got any GALs? It's good that you're reading DR, but also don't set yourself unrealistic goals. I think one goal for you would be let her contact you. She will thaw out in time, it's just a question when. I don't think we can compare notes as regard to when my H decided to warm up a bit. He's not been cold for the whole time, just when he talks about stuff like divorce. It would help us if you add a sig to your posts You can edit this in your profile.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Try and push her to the back of your mind. Have you got any GALs? It's good that you're reading DR, but also don't set yourself unrealistic goals. I think one goal for you would be let her contact you. She will thaw out in time, it's just a question when.