I absolutely agree with your lawyer; this isn't the Judge's first rodeo and will connect the dots pretty quickly.
I would not be surprised to see the assault charges dropped as well once the details are known. Domestic complaints always rise when court papers are filed. In fact, I worked at a family law office once and one of the things we used to ask clients was if they had a safe place to go once papers were filed - regardless of how "good" they thought their spouse was. Have a plan. In our jurisdiction, though, assault can only be charged upon an actual arrest, so much would have been sorted right from the get-go.
You are a strong lady, B. Think of you filing as the BD for your H. Suddenly reality is peeking into his fantasy life.
