My W had an interesting discussion on the telephone with her brother last night. Her brother is married about 15 years, and has been having marriage problems in the past couple of years. Well, his W is also in MLC, and he pegs it at 3 years now.
What is interesting to me is that my W is in MLC and is acting in many of the ways that her brother's W is acting. On the phone I suppose she was offering comfort to her brother and maybe (I don't know) telling her brother about us.
Aftwards, my W told me some about their conversation. She said:
1. "her brother is oddly detached, as if he is watching this from the sidelines." 2. "it's been about 3 years now, and her brother is just patiently waiting it out because he's seen the divorce of many of his friends and he doesn't want to go that route." 3. "her brother doesn't think he has options, and it makes it easier for him to be patient." 4. "her brother has said his W has changed greatly, for example, she is no longer patient with the kids."
I just find it ironic that my MLC W is talking to her brother about his MLC wife. I wonder what my W was thinking? I wonder whether she sees this in herself and me in her brother?
My W also mentioned how once when speaking to her sister-in-law, her sister-in-law mentioned having a MLC.
