Serendipity5309 I completely understand. I have 4 year old twin boys. One of them is super attached to his daddy and is devastated. My H didn't see them for 5 days because we got into an argument. All I could do is reassure my son that I was there for him. Keep yourselves busy and make sure you talk to you son about his feelings. My son acts out a lot because he misses his daddy. I tell him to use his words instead.
Since your H is still in the house with you all maybe you could just say he is working for now until you see what happens. Does your H know how its affecting your S?
We are all here for you. I hate to be the one that asks but do you suspect OW? Since he isn't coming home that's the first thing I thought of when I read your post.
M12 Kids 2 ILYBINILWY 08/05 Reconciled 05/06 S07/12 Moved back 03/13 Separated Again 06/24/13 Back Again (his choice) 02/14 Leaving again 03/23/14 DIVORCED 02/15