Hi Serendipity. I'm glad you found the forum and have ordered DR & DB. Hang in there and keep reading other threads until your books arrive. I'm very sorry you are hurting. There's no group of people who understand more than the wonderful folks here.
Keep posting. There's so much to get out in the beginning. Tell us more about you and more about your M. Although I am not one of them, there are a great number of people here dealing with parenting young children while navigating these rough waters. I know they can help you. Positivespin is a good thread to look to.
Right now... It's all about you. Taking care of you and your child. I know you don't feel like it (I didn't) but you have sooooo much time on your side.
When H starts the negative speak and blaming you. Just listen. Don't react or try to reason. Time. You've got it. Listen and process it for later. It will help you down the road to really listen...
(((((((BigHug))))))
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13