Still about the W

[RosaLinda]

you wrote: "Then walking over to another bar, but one that has music, I reach for her hand to guide her through a crowd, and she pulled away from me.

It really pissed me off. Also, in June, it was my W who reached out and held my hand when we were alone in town walking together."

I think that the difference here is that in June, she reached for your hand. And that we are supposed to give them space and not pursue, but are to be approachable when approached first. Yes, I know it svcks and is so hurtful, but from what my coach and the vets here have advised me to do. It's hard because I am the sort of woman who needs to be hugged a couple of times a day, and my H used to oblige me, but won't touch me now. And sometimes flinches away if I touch him. And I don't think you can change the dynamic between your W and daughter either. But it sounds as if you had a nice weekend overall!