It's very confusing that H is acting "normal" and "fine" some of the time when he told me just last month that he wants to divorce me, etc.
Yeah, it is really confusing and frustrating trying to figure a WAS out. The thing is, they often act very calm and confident on the outside but inside they're usually in a lot of turmoil over what they're doing. There's a part of them that tells them they need to do what they can to save their family, but another part that tells them they need to walk away and start a new life. It's a constant back-and-forth struggle. They try to hide it, and they definitely don't talk about it! But it shows in their inconsistent and confusing actions. They usually don't even know why they do some of the things they do, that's why it's best to just leave them to it and not ask them any questions about it.
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I am definitely going to continue to do my 180s and GALs.
Good, that's what DB'ing is all about.
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H hasn't said anything about them yet, but surely he has to notice some of the little changes.
Rest assured, he notices. He won't acknowledge them, but he does notice. Just keep at it. It takes the WAS many months before they start believing the LBS's 180s are real and not just tricks to get them back.
