One giant leap forward!

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You do know she disn't even ask you an actually question in the email. And if you don't have an answer right now and you feel this burning need to reply you can say " I'm looking into my options right now I will get back to you when I am more clear on how I want to proceed"

There are ways to reply.

If you ant a solicitor, you need to tell her. If you don't know yet and want to do your own research first, then tell her.

There are so many ways to go about this you don't need to be worried about. Honestly, I think you are worrying so much about how she is going to respond to you, you have really thought about how you actually want to handle the divorce and what you feel is fair. Sit down with a solicitor and have a consultation to get an idea of what's fair. Then you can chose to settle it with her. If she isn't fair or gets nasty, then you will have to get one.

Is there mediation over there in the UK?

I didn't think there was but after checking there is meditation. Looks like it would cost similar to my solicitor fees though.

Her comment came across like she was asking if I agreed with her with the question mark at the end.

I would rather sort out something about the kids sooner rather than later anyway so I'm fine starting with that.

I went to see a solicitor in April and found out nearly everything I needed to know then. If she doesn't want to go through solicitors and do it between us then I will try that first.
I can't afford a solicitor but I would manage to pay for it somehow if I had to. I can use credit cards, overdraft or borrow off family. W doesn't have these options available to her.

I do feel the burning need to reply to the email. Most on here are saying either wait or don't.