More central scripting here - great advice from Snodderly.
My xh also claimed assault and setting fire to his papers. (he is 6 inches taller than me and has amazing reflexes - first class fencer - I wouldn't have stood a chance!!) The setting fire to his papers was when we decided prior to all of this, to get rid of a lot of personal stuff going back 30+ years that we had been dragging around. His idea, joint decision.
He did later, much later, apologise for these claims and said his lawyer put him up to it. But right now your spouse is in another country. Fwiw I think the guilt and shame drives them nuts. Not to mention stupidity
