Well trying 180, I am going to try it. Really, there are no other options anyway,s. Like I said however, the icy coldness comes through in her email responses to me strongly. Even the very few times (twice, i believe)she initiated email contact during this past 2.5 months it was because of something she needed from me and the coldness came thru even in those. I will say though that in the very beginning of this she did provide me with an email explaining an episode with grandson and illness. It was detailed and the icy coldness was not there. Since then however, it's become very cold and icy. I find it interesting that you think she will make contact once I really stop doing so. I mean I see it with her being in a nice condo, most of her bills being paid for and yes, she has a part time job but, her family there will be very supprotive of her and I know thats a good thing. And they are really good people. I see that as a no win for me. I know that she has to establish residency there in IL for 3 months before she can file a divorce. So the clock started on July 1 when she moved into her place. Whether or not she files after the 3 months is up I dont know. Sure feels like she will though. She has not used the D word. Just that one phone convo we had the day after she left to tell me she was staying there and wanted her car brought to the airport so her sons employee could fly in and drive it back to her. That is the only phone convo we have had and she used the word permanent when I asked her about staying there. So, my waiting every two weeks before emailing her hasnt had any effect on things as yet. So frustrating....
