One giant leap forward!

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IMHO!

Hold your horses! Do not send that email tomorrow!

I understand PM, Labug, Adinva and AS and if you feel somewhat confused right now I get that too!

You need to make up YOUR mind in what YOU want to do about this! You seem to be drifting around and turning towards the last advice given to you!
You have received invaluable advice in all kind of directions. Read them over a few times more before deciding anything. Don’t rush in to this!

I believe that all this D-talk in the last posting could be way ahead of your Ws intensions! Look into Sandi2s postings! On the other hand I do agree with them if this is not the case! Hard case!!!
What do YOU believe?

IMO this will put the words in her mouth:

I will just ask if it's financial/child arrangements, a divorce or both.

Use an open ended! If this does not clarify things you can always ask a new one!

You could also consider asking this to her face on Friday!!

I really like this:

My stance on discussing things if it gets that far:
- It will have to be in person. No email or text discussion about whatever it is we are to discuss.
- One thing at a time.
- I'm going to take the time I need to make a decision.
- Any shouting, rude or obnoxious behaviour from W and will leave or warn her and leave during any discussions.
- I will make notes and keep records of what was said.

No emails or texts – beautiful and a major 180!
If you keep the records (I have done this!) then talk about it before you start. Tell her that it is for both of you and give her a copy! That takes some of the controlling out of this!

And this:

This could easily change.

Apply the rule! Hold the decision!

F

P.S. We need to meet up for a beer one day! In which part of UK are you living?

Thanks for the input F.
I'm in the North West of England. Where are you?