I'm 45, married almost 8 years. 1 kid, 6. H has a 16 year old. H is about to tun 40.
He does theater. He's been doing back to back shows since February. Out 5-6 nights a week, late nights coming in. We haven't seen much of each other.
About 4 weeks ago, on a Friday after a performance, he texted me at 2 am saying he'd been drinking (he NEVER did before) and is going to crash at some guy's house.
I don't hear from him at all Saturday. I called and texted, nothing. He finally texts me before his show and says he's fine. Doesn't come home. Sunday, nothing. Texts me at 11 pm saying he's too tired to drive and will come home before work Monday. Doesn't come home.
Finally shows up Monday night. I ask him what is going on. Says he's not a child and can do what he wants. And, oh yeah, he's "done".
Of course, it's all my fault. House is too messy, I don't want to have sex (I initiate all the time and he's "too tired), he has found these theater people who APPRECIATE him and VALUE him and he's the happiest he's been, maybe ever.
The staying out all weekend behavior has continued since. He didn't come home on the Fourth of July, so I had to take my kid out alone.
My 6 year old is DEVASTATED that his hero isn't here. I have nothing to tell him.
I still love him. I need this family to stay together. The effect this new behavior is having on my kid is heartbreaking.
