Trying my best to make the right decision

[LimboLove]

My 180's are :
Not reacting to things said that I don't nenecessarily agree with. Pre180 I was volatile

Touching him more . The book 5 love languages taught. me more about his love languages.

Removing myself from performing tasks or matters for relatives and friends that don't directly concern me. Co dependency had me running a uphill marathon for any and everybody

That's it for the most part .
I don't know what GAL is....yet

Some was compromising some was giving in.
What changed this time with him getting his own place was me repeatedly telling him to leave if he's that unhappy. Finally he did. His family picked at him kinda saying he'd be right back home. So after staying with his family for a short while he got an apt.

The one thing i'd change if I could go back , would be reacting. I have a very strong personality unlike him. He's no wimp; but he's not verbal at all about matters of the heart. They are few and far between. So in a very heated argument. I'd pretty much always win. If I didn't or felt I didn't I would stonewall until did or said something to make me stop it. All bright on by my depression, grief, and past and present hurts that I want dealing with well. Of course he did lots to set me off. This is my admission of where I failed us.