One month down, zero casualties

[Raine]

Wonka I gotta think #1 is. I think she texts him a lot and when he is texting while with me or friends, my thought is it's usually her. She is the one who is 10 years older, lost custody of her son, two bankruptcies, rents a room. I think she has the most to gain by H. She is also the one who would have caused the meltdown when he moved back in. I really don't get the dynamic with her and what he is telling her vs doing. I feel like they have a forbidden love situation going on because they can't really be together at work, cause of appearances, and she is the one that he knows I know about. I think they really only have contact with each other through text and quick and short, sneaky encounters.

No I haven't kept a journal like that. I haven't tried things really either. I've just been myself and I've just gotten out of the way as much as possible. I've followed his lead on reconnection except one thing I iniated. So I play a lot of phone games. He now has people over to the house about 3 times a week, at least for the past three weeks he has, so I am a part of it. I join in and he is concerned about me having a good time. I iniated chilling out with him some nights, rubbing his back, listening to a podcast or music. He lets me rub his back, snuggle against him. I feel like he needs that. It's all very innocent, but had a good convo with T2 about it and I feel it is good for connecting. He will drop any Convo with ow and put away his phone if I ask him if he wants to listen to a podcast. Always yes. He'll go do anything with me and wants to be invited unless he is really feeling low. He will let me touch him hug him etc, but he doesn't iniate unless he thinks I'm hurt. He is all over anything I post to fb immediately, unless it's a be positive quote like the "I believe in pink" by Audrey Hepburn.

Whatcha thinking Wonka? What kind of stuff would you suggest?