This sounds a lot like our sitch, except he's the one that moved out! My H hasn't worked either for a while, it's hard to get work over here in the UK. Like your W, I wanted him to get what he could but I couldn't motivate him. Now he has moved out, he's started dieting, working out at the gym and looking for work. He has his own business as well and that is building up nicely I guess as well as stress, you both have been depressed about the lack of money and job prospects. I was the one who lacked intimacy because my libido was low due to medication. Since I've come off it, I did initiate intimacy a lot more this year, but I think it was a little too late. MY H moved out shortly after this. My H also put on lots of weight and some days wouldn't move off the sofa. These days it's hard to get hold of him as he spends most of his time working. If only he was more motivated here, I would have been more motivated as well. If I was you, I would stop contacting your wife via email. I take it you've read Sandi's rules? It tells you there not to contact them via email, except if it's to do with the kids or finances. I bet you when you stop contacting her via email, she will start contacting you more. She will start to be curious as to why you've not emailed her, but you must remain mysterious Be friendly in your replies to her, but don't tell her what you've been up to. Just acknowledge what she's been up to and be interested in what she has to say. Don't ask her what she's been up to though, let her take the lead in this. Well done for losing the weight When you first start dieting, you will find at first it will fall off easily. After you've lost about a stone it slows down. I know as I've lost a stone and a half and can't seem to shift any extra weight. Everyone has been commenting on my weight loss and how well I'm looking They think it's because of my sitch, but I tell them that has nothing to do with my weight loss! I've been trying to lose weight since last September and since I've been doing my own cooking, it's been easier to give myself smaller portions H did the cooking when he was here and always gave me man sized portions, lol. He enjoys cooking and so this wasn't a chore for him. I'm happy to have my kitchen back and if there is going to be a R then that is one of the things I want to carry on with
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
