If it was the OW that emailed you I'd see this as an "opportunity" even if it doesn't feel like it. Talk about a great chance to be the one NOT acting crazy. Emailing the wife seems like a pretty insecure thing for an OW to do and you can come out of this looking like a much better catch if you just stay calm and ignore the fact that she even exists.
BD: Aug 2012 Separated since May 2013 S born Aug 2013 Aug 2013 H agrees to consider 'baby steps toward working things out' H is/was actively seeing someone?
