I know! Questions like, is it x, or is it y, or is it z? Right?
What do you really want to know, not what are you guessing it might be?
Seeing that you're sensitive to try to reduce your multiple choice type questions, I understand better why you were being unclear. It's really hard when you get conflicting advice here, I know! I don't really think it's that bad to ask her what she's going for. I wonder why you need to ask, can you just wait and see? Maybe she's feeling her way through this and is unclear on it too. Maybe while she's figuring out how to get a divorce you're being so patient and validating her feelings and giving her space to figure things out that she begins to wonder what she's doing. The limbo is hard to live in, but none of us really knows the future so what good is it really to ask and try to find out now what it's going to be. Could you just wait for her to hand you something that is more clear? Just kicking the idea around, not trying to tell you what to ask or not ask, just wondering.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
