Yes that is why specifics are also so crucial. If you interpret being dominant as pulling hair but your W views that as physically abusive you're headed for trouble. The path out of this starts with clear and open communication and proceeds by working on it together, not by you figuring out her hidden agenda or worse yet by you throwing darts based on your guesses about what she wants.
I agree with Mr. Bond and posted something similar a while back -- be who you want to be and the best spouse you can be. That has to be good enough and if its not you're done.
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
