Emotional Connection and Attraction

[MrBond]

All that stuff would work for a woman IF you weren't married to them. You could try to be assertive, mysterious, etc. but your W has a romanticized notion of what she wants that isn't realistic based on marital history and past experiences.

If she tells you that she wants you to be assertive and more like a "man" to dominate her, she could later turn that around and call you "controlling". Happens all the time. The thing is that you need to live and become what YOU want to. If you want to be more assertive and more "masculine", then take on a persona of someone whom you can model after. When you get to that point, you don't really care what your W wants you to be. You become the ideal because you want to.