Emotional Connection and Attraction

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Women will often be indirect, or give you hints you're supposed to pick up on. Men, on the other hand, often require direct communication and specific instruction.

I think you need to tell her that you're motivated to meet her needs and make her happy but you need a more direct statement of what she likes and what she's looking for, then you must force her to be specific. When she says she wants you to take charge in the bedroom, that's too vague. Say "When I'm taking charge in the bedroom, what am I doing? What does it look like to you?"

Unfortunately they will often feel that if they have to spell it out it kills it for them but you have to push through that -- you only have to tell me once, and then I will know.

The other observation I have is she made the attraction issue comment to you in a moment of frustration and you seized on it and have fixated on it, probably because it touched off one of your fears. Your fixation on it may be reinforcing it for her when otherwise she would have just forgotten about it.

You may be best served by letting that go and focusing on what she needs and wants versus trying to fix it. Just ignore it for now.