Those are good. I did decide to respond rather than make her mad by ignoring her when she's obviously thinking about the situation.
So, I did say that one of the things she pointed out that I did was indeed stupid of me and that I apologize for it. Another one I just mentioned (I used to keep a picture of our CO house on my computer) - I said I did that just because I was proud of the work I had done on it (she clearly felt it was meant to make her feel bad about us living here).
I left the deeper issues of feelings changing out of it. One important point, though. I know she's right about not wanting to be intimate with someone you feel is mistreating you. That's not what I want to change - rather my behavior that has her feeling that way.
But, that reaction was either based on her past interpretation of events/arguments/etc. or something I said very early on when she left on 7/24 before I gathered my DBing wits about me.
