This is why AA never worked for me. Rooms full of smoke and an overwhelming majority of people with self-righteous indignation trying to prove how much better of a recovery they're making by bragging on how bad they used to be. Most of the men there are more concerned about the 13th step, and supplanting one addiction with another. For the most part, these people are still as miserable as they were when they were drinking, and still struggle every day with their addiction. The only difference is that they're miserable sober people as opposed to miserable drunks. It's a program based overwhelmingly on ones own fortitude and deeds. Although I'm sure this program has worked for many, many people, it wasn't the program for me. As for me, I trust my Lord God to deliver me, and he has. My God is bigger than any problem or addiction that can come before me.
I am so very glad that you have found something that works for you. I strongly disagree with your comments on AA. Having been an active AA member for 11 years, it has been amazing. God has removed my obsession to drink, that is the main purpose of the program. To look within, take inventory of your wrong doings, your defects of character and ask God to remove them. I work the steps daily in my life and have become a happy, sane, person due to it. Most people I know in AA are happy. Are their people there not happy and miserable, of course. Plenty in church too, but I don't go around badmouthing church. I go to church, in fact. I truly believe that working the steps and my experience in AA and Ala-non is what enabled me to embrace DB principles so easily. My H as well. I believe that it is a very strong reason why, within 9 months of BD, we are piecing.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
