Thank you cadet. It's always good for a refresher.
There's been increased contact with H over the past couple of months, until this last week... and now I'm getting worried. Last week at mc was very tough, H owned some truths from 12 years ago and even suggested I had an affair with the home depot guy - really wild, wtf? accusation. But he was deeply emotional (which is terribly unusual). MC was there, I validated, apologized for ever giving that impression, I can see how these worries really brought on a lot of stress to our relationship, etc.
Then he withdrew. He saw the kids a little last Thurs just to run them someplace and that was it. I got an unpaid bill notice in the mail on Saturday. H doesn't have any of his mail come to my house so that was strange. He randomly showed up at the house yesterday while I was at work (never happened in the past year) but d15 wouldn't answer the door. She says she didn't know who it was, he didn't text her until he was driving away... And then last night he drunk dialed the kids and me on a group text message. Couldn't even make sense of it.
I know his roommate is gone this week and he's finally alone. Probably first time he's been truly alone in the past year. I sent him a text late last night 'is everything okay?' but didn't get a reply.
Should I keep reaching out to him today? We're supposed to have mc tomorrow. I know I can't help him out of this hole he's in. I'm actually considering legal financial protection for the first time. He makes so much money and has been living rent free, no idea what he spends money on. We need good credit to pay for d18's college so the late notice is going to be an issue. Sad to think that we've made it through the affair and the past year, and the subsequent year before he left, and now it's finally time to pull the trigger on filing. We'll see... maybe I'm romanticizing this week and there's nothing going on except a man who's not managing himself well.
