As per DB im journaling small Changes. Some observations: before my latest attempt at distancing he did start coming home (albeit with lots of tense moments) again and has re-ignited his interest in the baby. He also bought the house with me (though he insists he is still leaving me and just wants easy access and a nice place for his son to live). After the attempts at distancing he started facing me on the bed (still doesn't snuggle but before he kept his body totally turned away all night), kisses me goodbye (though still only on cheek), tells me bits about his day at work and sometimes calls/texts for no reason (I don't do that anymore, only communicate about real estate and the baby), talking to me about finances (he literally stopped caring a few months ago about our bills), discussing fixing up the house, and a semi renewed interest in how I'm feeling / what I'm eating (took the "you're an adult" stance before). If I'm honest he's treating it more like a friendly business arrangement than a romance, but better than the extreme avoidance and anger from before. I will continue to distance myself as much as possible. Being by myself yesterday after work and doing things mostly thinking about my baby was a very good step. Yes I'm patting myself on the back. smile. Thanks for listening everyone.

Me 35 H 34
DS- newborn 8/13
T 8.5 M 7
H's EA - 10/11
INILWY 5/13
DBing 6/13
Don't know WTF to do 1/14