An onion, dance lessons and a Harley III

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AS, thanks for responding. I can pretty much sum up with a yep, I agree!!! I am looking into joining a local HOG chapter, I need more friends who do not know my wife and dudes and dudettes on Harleys sounds like a great idea.

So much of this internal struggle that I have had these last several months is really a fight with my self. I lost my identity sometimes I feel like it was taken from me: a husband and a father to a family and married 23 years. Perfectionism?? look at me married for 23 years... Why was this important to me? Why did I not value myself enough to have my own identity?!?! This is where I am in a nutshell right now, well at least one struggle I have. Finding me and what is important to me and then living that life to the fullest. I encourage my children to reach for the stars and go for their dreams and yet here I sit... What am I teaching them through my actions?

AS answered this very well.

I too find myself with the same questions.

It certainly is much easier to see the good and possibilities in others and much harder to look within and believe the same for ourselves.

Thanks for your honesty in your post, it helped me.

I am glad it helps, I learning to be brutally honest about who I am, no more faking it. If someone does not like me flaws and all then get the heck out of my life lol. Here's the kicker, I'm also a pretty awesome person... fun, willing for adventure, opens the door and gives up my seat for women, helpful, generous, funny, loves God and the list goes on. what I'm getting at is don't always look at the negative and try to "fix" everything. JP, you have some awesome traits as well don't forget to look at those.

Gotta start to first part of 10 hour drive, coupled with at least 3 hours of work... A lot of face time with the windshield today