After our discussions last week where we both aired our annoyances that have caused our downfall my wife has promised (and i have seen proof of these since) to treat me like her equal and listen to my observations and ideas and not dismiss them off hand, for me this has been a major issue for me in that i felt like i was just another one of the 'kids' in our household as apposed to an equal to her. She has also understood how i have felt she wasnt proud of me as her husband and would treat me accordingly, she had got herself into the situation where everything i did ,probably including breathing would grate on her and this is something else she is working on. We are both agreed that we lacked communication these last few years and are both actively working on this - we put aside time each night to discuss each others day/problems and listen without judgement. This has by far been the best thing we have done lately and i can see real progress in this, we have also been enjoying each others company again and dare i say it we have laughed and joked something we both agree we havent done in a long time. I think we are still a long way of the finished article but it will take patience, i am still not back in the marital bed something i now understand i dont need to push and must give time.
Me: 39 W: 33 Son:7 Daughter:4 Its Over: March 7th 2013 Moved back home Mid June, trying to make it work
would grate on her and this is something else she is working on. We are both agreed that we lacked communication these last few years and are both actively working on this - we put aside time each night to discuss each others day/problems and listen without judgement. This has by far been the best thing we have done lately and i can see real progress in this, we have also been enjoying each others company again and dare i say it we have laughed and joked something we both agree we havent done in a long time.